There are reasons people stay in relationships that are harmful. For many these traits come up after the individual has been in the relationship for awhile. They have become attached to the person and may think they can change him or her. These are not obviously abusive traits such as hitting but more subtle. They may even be traits that would work in another relationship but not in this one. Sometimes people think they do not deserve better and this individual is reinforcing that level of low self esteem.
- While sometimes we are very quick to reject dates and partners for seemingly trivial reasons, other times we go to the opposite extreme and are too willing to overlook major flaws.
- We need to be able to see when a flaw is just a quirk that can be accepted or even embraced, or a sign of a serious problem that, over time, will only hurt us.
- Keep in mind what is truly important to you, what you want and deserve, and never settle for less. In the end, that’s the only deal-breaker you need.
“These are the people who are not necessarily bad, and not necessarily bad for everybody, but definitely bad for the people they’re with at the time.”