Caring about someone with high functioning anxiety can be such a drag. You can’t enjoy personal successes if a loved one is miserable. And to make things worse, no one even notices how noble you are because he’s high functioning. There are some strategies to cope with the unbearable burden of loving a disabled person without any acknowledgement, but every other one is bad: they’re not in control, a kind word goes a long way; they never feel well, a gentle touch can ease some of the strain, etc. Full stop.