Divorce is a difficult time for children. The author provides a list of ways for children to deal with their parents’ parting. Talking to someone the child is close to, a counselor, or therapist will allow the child to express and manage their feelings. Children are advised to not take sides with one parent over the other. Children should not protect either parent or try to mediate, as they are both adults. Children should not shoulder blame or guilt because they are not the catalyst for the marriage’s end. However, it is helpful to the child to show empathy towards everyone involved (including him/herself), give themselves room to grieve, and to stop trying to prevent the divorce. Self-maintenance is important and will give the child more control of their life. Finally, it’s important to remember that child should not try to act like a head of the household and to enjoy their childhood.
- Talk to someone, don’t take sides of either parent or become their protector, and try not go be their go-between person
- Stick to your routine, don’t try to be head of household, and realize its okay to spend time with each parent individually. Don’t try to “fix” their relationship and hope they get back together.
- Have open conversations about your feelings, or write them down. Your feelings are legitimate!
“Divorce is a loss of innocence, and as a child you have been put into a space that is new and frightening. Remember: your parents still love you, and even though they may no longer be married, they are still there for you, to comfort and guide you.”