Marriages fail for many reasons and often from a combination of reasons. Any of the issues listed here should give cause for concern and care. Unaddressed personal and spiritual issues will affect both partners, even if one is unaware or innocent.
1. Insecurity and Worry
Take your eyes off the world and its illusion of happiness; you will never find peace from anyone or anything the world offers you. Trust in the Lord. “But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow.”
- Neil J. Lavender, Ph.D., believes that rather than compromising when couples can not agree on activities, couples should develop a brand new “we” activity, unique to them.
- He believes marriages are hijacked when one member attempts to make the other member more like them.
- One introvert and extrovert couple decided to keep bees, so that the socially outgoing one could sell honey and the more introverted one could learn about bees.
“I believe that marital failure between two relatively intact people is due to what
I call a failure to wed.”