Commitment to those around you can mean the difference between being treated great by your friends and family to being the butt of jokes for tardiness and other lapses of commitment. People remember if you keep your promises to them and when you don’t, your lack of commitment can really foul you up.
- I realize that I’ve often made the biggest difference not by being a supportive listener but by being very direct and refusing to back down until the new concept penetrated the concrete wall they’d built around their way of being.
- By the time we’ve reached even teenagehood, many of our beliefs have become set in concrete. As a result, gently encouraging change may not be enough to break through.
- Confrontation is key to getting chronically late and inconsiderate people to open up to new ways of thinking and showing how their bad behavior affects them in ways they don’t even realize.
“By the time we’ve reached even teenagehood, many of our beliefs have become set in concrete. As a result, gently encouraging change may not be enough to break through. Of course, it’s wise to first try gentle tact, but if that fails, especially if it has failed repeatedly, the issue is important, and we’re confident we’re correct, the wise counselor, family member, teacher, or friend should assess the risk-reward of a direct confrontation, including not backing down.”