By taking the time an effort to stop and think about things that make us anxious or upset before we react, we can a better understanding of ourselves, our loved ones and our fear. Take the example of Kristen, whose anxieties related to material success were triggered when her husband decided to leave the computer industry for the world of art. By pausing and giving herself time to really think about what her concerns were, what deeper drives or fears produced them, and how to deal with them, Kristen was able to improve her relationship with her husband and also develop her own career as well.
- By taking a few deep breaths and stopping to think about something that makes us anxious, we can understand our feelings and what is driving them, and learn to deal with them.
- Kristen used pause-and-reflect to better manage the anxiety she felt over material wealth and status when her husband left the computer industry to become an artist.
- By learning to control her anxiety, Kristen was able to appreciate her husband’s point of view while also becoming more drive. To develop her own professional skills.
“To know what is going on in the body when we pause to reflect, can help us to override the initial reaction of flight or fight.”