It’s far to easy to misunderstand people and for the most part that doesn’t affect your life in large ways, but for a couple a misunderstanding can oftentimes lead to big fissures in a relationship. Third in the “More Ways Couples Misunderstand Each Other” series, Dr. Steven Stosny, Ph.D. brings to light the misunderstandings that commonly affect a marriage and just how to work those misunderstandings out or avoid them.
Key Takeaways:
- Interest is activated by novelty. Over time the familiarity of experiencing the same good thing again and again will diminish interest in it.
- To make matters worse, the brain naturally filters out familiar sounds and voices.
- Even when not consciously attending to loved ones, we never stop feeling them. Quite unconsciously, we modulate our emotions to match those of loved ones.
“Emotional responsiveness to loved ones provide the security, comfort, nurturing, and revitalization necessary to help us go out and face the world another day.”