Divorce has become commonplace in our society. Reasons vary and can range from infidelity to conflict. One risk factor for divorce, is living together before marriage. Couples who cohabit often develop negative relationship behaviors that they continue into the marriage. These behaviors are often considered unacceptable after saying your vows and lead to conflict and divorce. If you put off living together before you are married, it can lead to a long term committed relationship.
- Zach Carter, PhD, nostalgically recalls learning ski fundamentals, chafing for the bigger runs, while learning the bunny runs.
- He considers this need for fundamentals, delaying gratification in order to gain a good foundation, a good metaphor for what relationships require.
- Carter suggests cohabitation, which has increased a great deal in the last few decades, plays a part in people not getting a proper foundation for a good marriage.
“In the western world, divorce has become an almost natural, collective option for many married women and married men, and a viable option for unmarried women and unmarried men to consider as they date.”