It is difficult and painful to tell a spouse you want a separation or a divorce. Before you say such words to your spouse, be sure you are making the right decision. Don’t use divorce as a threat when you are having an argument. Once you have decided you really do want a separation or divorce, choose an appropriate time to break the news. If you have kids, do it when the kids are not around. If your spouse is abusive, make sure you have a safety plan for yourself and for your kids before you mention a separation or divorce.
- Telling your spouse you want a divorce is a drastic and irreversible step, so only do it if you are absolutely certain.
- Try to be considerate about when and in what context you break the news to your spouse, and never do so during an argument.
- You should give some thought to issues like who will stay in the home (for now) before you have the conversation.
“It will likely be one of the most difficult and painful conversations you will ever have—even if you’re both aware that your marriage has been vulnerable for some time.”