Any healthy, stable relationship is going to require a bit of work to maintain. But how much is too much when it comes to the effort required to sustain a lasting relationship? If you find yourself feeling exhausted due to putting in constant effort with no gain, it may be time to reevaluate the situation. If you’re feeling this level of exhaustion, chances are that you’re not being rewarded with self-discovery or enthusiasm, making the relationship much more effort than it is worth.
- Relationships are journeys of self-discovery, and this can be discomforting to us because we are facing the unknown.
- What can truly kill a relationship is the feeling that nothing is changing, that it has become all pain and no gain.
- Most couples put off profeessional counseling until it has become a last resort, but by then it there is too much resentment and negativity.
“As long as we don’t expect our partner will be a magical soul mate with whom we see eye to eye on everything, we might anticipate that sharing our lives with a significant other will entail making significant changes.”