Anger is an emotion that unfortunately cannot be avoided in intimate relationships, but there are several reasons why it needs to remain under control. These angry emotions are often driven by underlying feelings that they have failed to express in one way or another. This can be remedied by the ability to identify your anger style, and then become aware of how your anger style impacts the other partner. Some of these anger styles include: snapping, nitpicking, and rapid-fire extermination.
- Because the partners on the other end of angry expressions cannot see those hidden feelings, they too often react defensively to the anger itself.
- Once partners are in an angry interaction, they rapidly go from friends to adversaries and cannot see beyond each of their own emotional survivals.
- Angry partners who are fearful of their partner’s response often wait to express their own negative feelings when they can rapidly disconnect before facing retaliation.
“n order for couples to successfully resolve their differences, they must stop using unsuccessful angry exchanges.”