Divorce can be an extremely difficult and turbulent time. As part of a series on healthy divorce, Wendy Paris talks about the importance of resisting the urge to compare oneself to others. She speaks to how everyone handles and goes through divorce differently. Her key point is to keep it self-referential.
Key Takeaways:
- This can make us unusually concerned about what other people say or think, more susceptible to bad advice, and even more likely to engage in uncharacteristic negative self-comparison.
- This can make us unusually concerned about what other people say or think, more susceptible to bad advice, and even more likely to engage in uncharacteristic negative self-comparison.
- We want to remain self-referential in divorce, keep our focus on our own situation, rather than comparing it to someone else’s. Another way to put it: Stay in your own divorce.
“We all feel insecure in the midst of divorce. This makes sense; we’ve just ripped apart the life we’ve been living, and our new life is not yet set. This tendency to look at our lives, which are in flux, in comparison to someone else’s, inspired my Principle of Parting #6: Beware of the Urge to Compare.”
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/splitopia/201701/good-divorce-advice-resist-the-urge-compare