Many would scoff at the idea of how damaging the loss of a first love can be, but it is actually signified as a notable milestone in our lives by many renowned psychologists. Being met with a high sense of vulnerability after losing the security of a long-term relationship can be rather frightening for young individuals. This age group meets consistent losses throughout their teen years, and have not yet come to terms with ways to accommodate these experiences.
- As we grow older, we must accommodate the pervasive sense of loss that is experienced throughout adolescence.
- Adolescence can be seen as the search for lost paradise and the gradual recognition that it will never be found.
- Adult platitudes don’t help and the feelings of agony and disillusionment are very real.
“The loss of our first love is a developmental milestone of huge significance. (Romeo and Juliet kill themselves because they can’t imagine life without the other person.)”