One might wonder whether couples’ therapists ever suggest divorce, or if that is considered an admission of defeat and an insult to their professional pride. The answer, of course, is that it depends – most specifically on where the relationship is in its course. Early on, most therapists will not take a stance, but will instead focus on specific issues and attempts to resolve them. Later, once divorce is likely certain, therapists will instead serve as mediators.
- One might wonder if couples’ therapists are always required to keep fighting to fix things, or if they ever throw in the towel.
- Generally speaking, therapists will focus on specific issues, rather than outcomes, allowing couples to decide the path ahead.
- However, once a divorce is imminent, the therapist can often turn to the role of a mediator.
“Most therapists said they give as little directive as possible on the outcome of relationships, even if a couple is fighting like proverbial cats and dogs in their office.”