This blog post was about the importance of setting boundaries and having a voice within a relationship. In relationships where one party is not having their needs met or is experiencing inconsistency due to their partners actions, it is important that the neglected party be assertive and decide what they really want out of the relationship instead of allowing the mental turmoil to continue.
- The problem here is that the relationship is Jake’s not Simone’s. He’s setting the pace, the rules of engagement, and she is essentially is taking what she gets. There are a couple of dynamics at work here that are keeping it in this stalemated position.
- Simone needs to move from being reactive to being proactive, and before she can do that she needs to decide what she really wants. Is she wasting her time with Jake? That’s up to her.
- This is the only way of changing the rules of the game. Simone needs to have input. It’s all about the process. She needs to explain to Jake how she feels, that she wants to sensitive to his own fears and hesitations
“Simone needs to move from being reactive to being proactive, and before she can do that she needs to decide what she really wants.”