It is talking about what you should expect if you want to be in relationship whit a person who already has one marriage behind him. If you start to be whit him, at the beginning it should be a public secrete because maybe he is still in process of divorce. You should also be prepared to be compared whit his last wife, if he has a kid, that the kid likes you, his friends will also compare you whit his ex. It is a rough road but at least you know what to expect.