For so many, relationships can become complacent after months and years of being with the same person. Intimacy can be lost and once this happens, it is often hard to bring back into a relationship. However, if one can allow themselves to be vulnerable to their partner, intimacy can return. To be vulnerable means you can admit when you are wrong or have misspoke. There is not need to always get the upper hand in a given situation. If you are wrong about something, it is okay to admit to this. This allows your relationship to grow and can keep any building resentment at bay. One also needs to be able to listen to their partner’s problems and concerns without trying to be their therapist. Sometimes, people just want to be heard and to vent and are not looking for someone to solve their issues. Do you always have to be in control of everything? This can become another problem. Allow your partner to take the lead sometimes and show you a different perspective. And above all, do not be afraid to be yourself. Do not change who you are to cater to your partner. This will not help you or your partner and the relationship in the long term. Be yourself from the beginning.
Key Takeaways:
- Admitting your faults can help your partner be comfortable with themselves
- Always controlling a relationship does not allow intimacy to flourish
- Trying to solve your partner’s problems immediately is not necessarily a good thing
“It may seem counterintuitive at first, but recognizing and accepting your strengths — emotional, physical, intellectual, professional — is essential to allowing yourself to be vulnerable.”