Maggie’s letter to Dr. L describes her negative feelings regarding a falling-out with a formerly close friend. Maggie explains that she has gone through recently family losses and is burdened by the needs of dependent family members, while her former friend lives a more exciting and adventurous life. Dr. L’s reply suggests that perhaps the friendship does not have to end completely. Even though they are out-of-sync and going through a strained time, a more distant but still amicable friendship might be possible for now.
- when friends’ lives fall out-of-sync, it can pose challenges to the closest of friendships.
- Consider whether you want to give up on the friendship entirely.
- Perhaps, you could maintain a peripheral relationship as a placeholder for a closer one in the future.
“Consider whether you want to give up on the friendship entirely. It may be that the timing is off and she isn’t the right friend for you (or you for her) right now. Over time, her circumstances or yours may change.”