Whether we like it or not, it’s simply a fact of life that all partners will have arguments, some more than others. But it is the way that we act during those arguments that will dictate whether they will end as learning experiences, or turn into something bigger and more negative. The key, while difficult, is to understand the other person’s perspective, and to listen instead of making accusations. And there are some specific phrases that should always be avoided.
- It’s a fact of life: we all argue with our relationship partners now and then.
- However, what makes a big difference is how the argument goes, and specifically what you say.
- There are certain phrases that you must always avoid in order to prevent the argument from escalating to another level.
“Similar to annoying mid-fight behaviors like eye rolling, groaning and stonewalling, certain words can instantly turn a productive argument into an unproductive scream-fest.”