Recovering from the damage done by a partner who cheats and recovering as fast as those around you say you should is challenging. You have the immediate damage, but there are also other ways that partner has damaged you, among them, your personal life is now very public, your ability to trust others fades, your sense of being good enough is damaged, and you’re the one left out in what’s become a relationship triangle, just to name a few.
- Those of us who know the heartbreak of a partner’s betrayal are usually left to suffer on our own, pretending we’re OK. No one fully understands the depth of the pain or realizes how many scars we carry long after the affair.
- The intimacy that was just between the two of you is now being talked about casually among friends, family and acquaintances. You feel naked, exposed, and humiliated.
- When your partner betrays you, he or she makes a life-changing decision with no input from you. You think, “If the person I love most cheats on me, how can I trust anyone?”
“So, not only must you face and deal with the hurt of betrayal, but you feel like a “wuss” for not being able to move on fast enough to satisfy those around you.”