In days past, marriage was understood to be a lifetime commitment. Most people were prepared to stay through any surprise changes or life issues. Now that divorce has freed us to leave bad situations if needed, there are still things to discuss ahead of the big day to avoid the hassle and disappointment of divorce. Some items new couples need to consider are general like future plans, and some are specific to the individuals getting married, like how children will be raised and how to face changing values.
- No one wants to go through it, but until couples have their first spat, it’s impossible for each member to assess how the other handles conflict.
- Some potentially painful topics should be put on the table before marriage, including family planning, monogamy and money.
- As touchy as it is, it’s important to bring up those things you wish your partner would change.
“the ability to broach big, difficult conversations early on is one of the most important qualities in a new relationship”